4. mai - What is soft-nexting? You may have heard this term from any of the pickup artist communities, but it's also used among other male bloggers who write about dating and relationships. One definition from Blackdragon Blog: “When a man removes a woman from his life for a short period of time, usually three to. feb. - My husband knew that I was bi-curious when we met, so on the anniversary of our first date, we decided to explore and went to a swingers club.” . Some of my most intimate, fulfilling encounters lately have been 'soft swap' — meaning I have sex with my primary partner, and have foreplay only with our. 6. nov. - I have been dating my current boyfriend for about 5 months now. He's 20, about to turn 21 and I'm 23 years old. The thing is, many times we have sex, he goes soft inside of me. I tried to go back down on him and make him hard again and then start having sex, but he goes soft again. I tried to be.